To be a responsible person is commendable trait. I wouldn't put myself in the excessive category but I sure can get things twisted, especially in my relationship with God.
Periodically God reminds me of how I have subtly moved the responsibility of my relationship with Him until it's totally upside down. I fool myself and I don't even realize the roles have reversed. How do I want to be? Dependent on Him, becoming more like HIm, being more fully who I was created to be and available to Him. Too often I find myself doing all the 'work'. I make it about my work - legalism. "We are not changed by the promises we make to God, but by the promises he makes to us."